Why Counselling? What is Counselling?

Everyone wants their lives to change but do YOU want to change?
After all, counselling is all about working on ones internal changes. It is a process of unlearning the unhealthy while learning new and healthier attitudes and habits.

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. Ezekiel 36:26

Through this process, your life will change because it is you who will change. From the inside out.

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Why are we so busy with The World???

This title echoes my friend’s question: “Why must life be hard?” “Has it always been like this or did we, as a human race, stumbled ourselves away?”

I stayed in Johor Bahru for a week during Chinese New Year. Amidst the monotony of being away from work, my curiosity was roused about Gamaliel whom Paul mentioned in Acts 22:3, crediting him to be his teacher. I looked deeper into Gamaliel and was drawn to the Jewish tradition of training their children on their beliefs.
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On Our Dehumanization and Rejecting God

We are not much different from Boxer from the story: Animal Farm. “I will work harder!”

As we pause and evaluate man’s position in world history, it won’t be difficult to see that civilization is experiencing the peak of psychological distress; both as a society and as individuals. When speaking of the etiology of psychological disorders, I always come back to the theory of human needs by Erich Fromm.  We, as human beings, have basic needs to satisfy. Do check yourself out base on these needs and maybe this can give you the answer as to why you’re feeling low or why you are feeling empty.  It shows that you have been frustrated on one or more of these needs:

  1. We have a need to know who we truly are (Identity)
  2. We have a need to connect with others (Relation)
  3. We have a need to belong to a group or community (Rootedness)
  4. We have a need to rise above challenges and sufferings (Transcendence)
  5. We have a need for variation and adventure (Excitation)
  6. We have a need for constancy and consistency in our reality (Frame of Orientation)

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Bring Back His Majesty

As a Christian Counsellor, I have been dealing with the rising cases of broken marriages, broken family relationships, persistent depression, nihilism, and even suicides. People are getting lost in this life, losing their sense of meaning and purpose. In this article I will give a firm explanation on what is happening and why. 

So what is happening in society now?

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Fears Anxieties: Meditations 15 January 2022

I’ve been reflecting on my life, from my decisions back in 2021 as I woke up with anxiety this morning. I started wondering, is this really what The Lord wanted? Is my heart hardened and am I now acting out of human pride? I pleaded with The Lord: if I am walking on my own way then please correct me at once! If I am headed to a place where you won’t be present, then I don’t want to be there! (This reminds me of and incident between Moses and God -Exodus 33:15)
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Romans 8:28

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God,
to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28

In Christian Counselling, people complain to me: “what is Romans 8:28 if things in life keep going wrong? When things we plan for and things we want never go our way?”  I will place in this article what I discuss with my clients regarding this query.

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Christian Faith to Optimism

One thing is required to please God and that is faith (Hebrews 11:6). For this involves knowing who He is and approaching Him accordingly.  As such, I don’t think God enjoys seeing us plan and consider things out of fear and pessimism.  It doesn’t, like Moses’ sin, hallow or give glory to The Lord (Numbers 20:12).
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