The Problem Within

In Solution Focused Therapy, we spend a whole load of time assessing the problem of the client. This is because every treatment plan, being unique for every case, depends wholly on the nature of the problem. As I tell counselling students, one can spend their careers dealing with suicidals but never once will you find a case exactly as the other.
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From Glory to Glory

But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.
-2 Corinthians 3:18

One thing I’ve learned in Developmental Psychology, besides that life consists of stages, is that life will not wait for anyone to be ready for the next.  We will be pushed to the next stage of life whether we are prepared for it or not.
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Why won’t God speak to me?

As a rule in Christian Counselling, I always remind people that God speaks to us all the time, we just don’t like what He says.  Most of the time, we just want someone to agree with us, to say to us the things that we want to hear.  This attitude is deadly.
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When to Quit?

Quitters never win they say. It is not something we were raised to do. This virtue of determination, of not quitting, is proper when it comes to our studies, for that high school student who refuses to give up until she solves the maths problem.  For that 3 year old who refuses to give up on that 12-piece jigsaw puzzle. As children we were ridiculed or even punished for quitting on a task, and now as adults, a lot of us suffer needlessly from unnecessary stress brought about by this inability to determine that enough is enough.
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McLobsters and McPizzas

Does McDonald’s serve Lobsters or Pizzas?

I am posing these questions to people who ask about the seeming inconsistencies found in The Bible.  I placed emphasis on the word “SEEMING” to point out that there are no inconsistencies in God’s word;
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On Buddhist Impermanence and Christian Counselling

I had the privilege of meeting a Buddhist practitioner who shared with me the concept of Impermanence.  Impermanence is one of the core concepts of Buddhism that teaches us that nothing in the universe is permanent.

“Life in any world is unstable, it is swept away, it has no shelter and protector, nothing of its own.”
– Buddhist verse

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Boldness in Christ

What if she doesn’t like me? Asks a young man before approaching his crush.
What if the market forces change? Asks a middle aged auntie thinking of a career change.
What if I make the wrong decision? Asks this procrastinating manager.

These are just some of the questions that I face in Christian Counselling. Questions of doubt, of insecurities, and most of all, of fear.  The main question we all worry about is: what if I fail?
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