The War on Pornography

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The battle against lust and the corruption of sexuality has been going on since the beginning of civilization.
The first ever commandment, today known as “The Cultural Mandate” directs us to “go forth and multiply”. We were made for procreation and sexuality has always played a large role in our existence. In Creation, everything was made good. It was God who created sexuality and it was God Himself who commanded us to take part in the role of co-creators; pro-creators if you may.

Being sexual creatures, we become naturally attracted to sex. We become easily tempted and easily swayed to derive of its pleasures without consideration to its natural and divine purpose. All the enemy had to do was to stimulate these minds, and down the hill we roll. Sexual sins multiplied and society itself was pulled down.

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Counselling Pornography Addiction

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Grace Counselling Centre provides counselling support and psychotherapeutic interventions for Pornography Addictions and related sexual addictions. We can help you manage and overcome your struggles in sex and porn addiction.

How will it go?

The first session will consist of an assessment interview to check the individual stories of the unique cases. This actually speeds up the process as the counsellor gets to identify the type of pornography or sexual addiction we’re facing and this allows us to identity targeted factors that are pertinent to the case.

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That Ungodly Hour

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Data gathered showed that most episodes of compulsively watching pornography occurs in the evening when the person is alone and bored at home. It is not so much as they are stressed but more of bored and that they want to stretch out the rest of the evening to delay the coming anxieties brought about by the next day. When are the other episodes conducted you would ask? Well, I cannot say that 100% of the episodes occur only at this ungodly hour because there are a good number of cases where afternoon episodes arise in conjunction with the evening episodes. Safe to say that in 99% cases of compulsive pornography, episodes occur in the evenings between 9pm to 2am; while some have additional episodes in the afternoon. This is obviously for the students who more or less have nothing to do in the afternoon when the parents are still away and they are left alone with their boredom (and their hormones).

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Boundaries in Relationships

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In marriage counselling, I’ve encountered couples who’ve developed cumulative resentments over their partners without knowing the concrete reasons why (this usually leads to an awkward silence in couples therapy when specific examples are sought). They just suddenly feel like shutting the other party out and avoid them; only to feel the stress immediately once they’re exposed to one another again.

The first thing I look out for would be frustrations on one another; however, these frustrations can be more narrowed down to specific causes, the ones I would check on would be resentments stemming from boundary violations in a close relationship.

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Counselling Length, Duration, and Frequency

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A counselling relationship is expected to run for an average of 6 sessions.
Each session is normally spaced in one-week intervals to give the client time and opportunity to apply what they have learned from the previous lesson.

As meeting once a week may not be enough to facilitate real change (and meeting more than once a week may be costly); here in Grace Counselling Centre, we provide an inter-session E-mail support.
The contact between counsellor and the client doesn’t end with the physical sessions.
Counsellors in GCC keep in contact with the client between sessions through E-mail exchanges, support, and updates.

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The Manger: A Christmas Reflection

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Welcome and a Merry Christmas to all!

In this video, I tried to unwrap a small insight on the symbolism of the Biblical manger where The Lord Jesus Christ hanged out as a baby. Many of you will suspect that this video was inspired from the Christmas sermons of Charles H. Spurgeon; you are not wrong on that. I’ve been reading his Christmas sermons lately and found tons of great insights by Charlie himself.

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Guard Your Heart! Christian Counselling Journal Reflections

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One would be surprised that even in the humble profession of a Christian Counsellor or even as a Christian Psychologist, I still find myself entwined not just with political events but even with worldwide historical events. With all the hurricanes, the wars, rumors of wars, financial collapses and recessions, I remember a verse that can be useful for my meditations. Well, until I recently discovered how wrong I was with my prior interpretation of it. I am speaking of the famous phrase in The Bible: “Guard your hearts!”

Mind you, this article has nothing to do with fears and anxieties.

Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.
Proverbs 4:23 (NKJV)

Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard,
for out of it flow the springs of life.
Proverbs 4:23 (AMP)

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Why Counsellors Don’t Give Advice

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Do have a go at this video which I believe answers the question clearer. Cheers!

We are mental health professionals but counsellors (whether Christian Counsellors or Secular Counsellors) are not consultants. Generally, counselling goals aim to facilitate long term changes on the person; whereas consultants aim to provide solutions for particular projects. Like if the client is troubled by anxiety, counselling and therapy will aim to deal with the source of this anxiety rather than just finding ways to eliminate it.

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The Brutality of Life

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Life is Brutal
Call this a sampling error but as a Christian Counsellor, I often feel that I have a front row seat to the things that I’m going to share. I cannot just spill things out impromptu because of privacy issues in counselling ethics but i can safely share that throughout 2024 alone, I’ve encountered divorces, miscarriages, litigations and incarcerations, broken relationships, suicides, bankruptcies, people in extreme depression, you name it!

On the personal front, I’ve a friend who was just sent to prison and my best buddy is still trying to wake up from an already 2-month long streak of unconsciousness from a brain injury. I have much to share but this is not about me, just me illustrating that everyone goes through tough times in life.

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Worshipping God Amidst Trials and Suffering

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In Christian Counselling, it is not uncommon to encounter people, Christians, who are going through extremely tough times in their life. As such, counsellors and psychologists dealing with faith based issues are all too familiar with philosophical and existential queries that deal with human suffering.  Such questions are thrown to us on a daily basis: “Why is there suffering?” “Why did God allow this?” “During the peak of suffering, what are we supposed to do?” I cannot tackle the first two questions for now but I am here to address the third question. For a direct answer (mind you, this is in the context of Christian Counselling), I always point to God’s word. What did The Bible show for us to do in the midst of suffering? Or to rephrase the question, what are we to do while waiting on The Lord?  The most straight forward answer is to worship Him.

king David praying to The Lord for deliverance while in the midst of trouble and distress.

This practice has been documented all throughout The Bible.

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