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Christian Warfare: Battle of The Mind

Written by Kirby Chua on August 12, 2025

The image above was taken from this animated film: Kpop Demon Hunters. As a dad of a seven-year-old, I was shocked about certain themes that casually popped up, knowing that they are subliminally influencing every viewers minds (not just the kids, although it would be especially salient to the kid’s unfiltered undefended minds). What you see in the image on top is a scene in the film where the audience of the Kpop group Huntrix were literally offering their souls to the singers (you see those bright blue lines coming out from the people’s hearts? These are their souls travelling to empower the singers on stage). Among all the themes tackled in this film, I fully agreed with one where it was explained earlier in the plot that: THE BATTLE IS FOR THE MINDS OF PEOPLE.

We are in so much fear nowadays (because of the state of the world and the role of propaganda) that people will worship anything just to feel sheltered. We will simply fall for anything posing as a saviour as if looking for a quick fix to our current state of uncertainty: Investment scams, health scams, sex scams, and yes, even worshipping music bands. We are pushed to the most deflated state that we are desperate for a cure and a way out.

Working on Couples and Marriages

Written by Kirby Chua on July 30, 2025

The family is the smallest unit of a group in God’s Kingdom. At the heart of the family is The King of kings, The Lord Jesus Christ, teaching and guiding the leaders of this unit. It all started with the marriage of the 2 offices, the offices of the husband and of the wife. Man and woman leave their families and become this singular family unit, bonding their spirits in a covenant with no one less than The Lord Jesus Himself.

This family unit, this marriage, directs and manages the movements and operations of the family. For some it is only the two of them, for the others, it consists of their offspring, for some, their family units extend to their very own parents and even to their siblings or even cousins and aunts and uncles. It is part of God’s great plan that these groups be ruled by the father and the mother, the husband and the wife, as it foreshadows the magnificent (yet incomprehensible) relationship between The Church and The Lord Jesus Himself.

Bridging Communication in Marriage Therapy

Written by Kirby Chua on July 25, 2025

While I do believe that love conquers all, maintaining marriages aren’t that simple. Even well meaning couples who truly love each other may end up drifting apart because of unprocessed and unaddressed resentments.

In this video, we discuss how miscommunications between husband and wife can lead to these build up of resentments.

The War on Pornography

Written by Kirby Chua on July 1, 2025

The battle against lust and the corruption of sexuality has been going on since the beginning of civilization.
The first ever commandment, today known as “The Cultural Mandate” directs us to “go forth and multiply”. We were made for procreation and sexuality has always played a large role in our existence. In Creation, everything was made good. It was God who created sexuality and it was God Himself who commanded us to take part in the role of co-creators; pro-creators if you may.

Being sexual creatures, we become naturally attracted to sex. We become easily tempted and easily swayed to derive of its pleasures without consideration to its natural and divine purpose. All the enemy had to do was to stimulate these minds, and down the hill we roll. Sexual sins multiplied and society itself was pulled down.

Counselling Pornography Addiction

Written by Kirby Chua on April 13, 2025

Grace Counselling Centre provides counselling support and psychotherapeutic interventions for Pornography Addictions and related sexual addictions. We can help you manage and overcome your struggles in sex and porn addiction.

How will it go?

The first session will consist of an assessment interview to check the individual stories of the unique cases. This actually speeds up the process as the counsellor gets to identify the type of pornography or sexual addiction we’re facing and this allows us to identity targeted factors that are pertinent to the case.

That Ungodly Hour

Written by Kirby Chua on April 4, 2025

Data gathered showed that most episodes of compulsively watching pornography occurs in the evening when the person is alone and bored at home. It is not so much as they are stressed but more of bored and that they want to stretch out the rest of the evening to delay the coming anxieties brought about by the next day. When are the other episodes conducted you would ask? Well, I cannot say that 100% of the episodes occur only at this ungodly hour because there are a good number of cases where afternoon episodes arise in conjunction with the evening episodes. Safe to say that in 99% cases of compulsive pornography, episodes occur in the evenings between 9pm to 2am; while some have additional episodes in the afternoon. This is obviously for the students who more or less have nothing to do in the afternoon when the parents are still away and they are left alone with their boredom (and their hormones).

Boundaries in Relationships

Written by Kirby Chua on March 24, 2025

In marriage counselling, I’ve encountered couples who’ve developed cumulative resentments over their partners without knowing the concrete reasons why (this usually leads to an awkward silence in couples therapy when specific examples are sought). They just suddenly feel like shutting the other party out and avoid them; only to feel the stress immediately once they’re exposed to one another again.

The first thing I look out for would be frustrations on one another; however, these frustrations can be more narrowed down to specific causes, the ones I would check on would be resentments stemming from boundary violations in a close relationship.

Counselling Length, Duration, and Frequency

Written by Kirby Chua on March 17, 2025

A counselling relationship is expected to run for an average of 6 sessions.
Each session is normally spaced in one-week intervals to give the client time and opportunity to apply what they have learned from the previous lesson.

As meeting once a week may not be enough to facilitate real change (and meeting more than once a week may be costly); here in Grace Counselling Centre, we provide an inter-session E-mail support.
The contact between counsellor and the client doesn’t end with the physical sessions.
Counsellors in GCC keep in contact with the client between sessions through E-mail exchanges, support, and updates.

The Manger: A Christmas Reflection

Written by Kirby Chua on December 20, 2024

Welcome and a Merry Christmas to all!

In this video, I tried to unwrap a small insight on the symbolism of the Biblical manger where The Lord Jesus Christ hanged out as a baby. Many of you will suspect that this video was inspired from the Christmas sermons of Charles H. Spurgeon; you are not wrong on that. I’ve been reading his Christmas sermons lately and found tons of great insights by Charlie himself.

Guard Your Heart! Christian Counselling Journal Reflections

Written by Kirby Chua on October 10, 2024

One would be surprised that even in the humble profession of a Christian Counsellor or even as a Christian Psychologist, I still find myself entwined not just with political events but even with worldwide historical events. With all the hurricanes, the wars, rumors of wars, financial collapses and recessions, I remember a verse that can be useful for my meditations. Well, until I recently discovered how wrong I was with my prior interpretation of it. I am speaking of the famous phrase in The Bible: “Guard your hearts!”

Mind you, this article has nothing to do with fears and anxieties.

Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.
Proverbs 4:23 (NKJV)

Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard,
for out of it flow the springs of life.
Proverbs 4:23 (AMP)