Anxiety all around is up because of all the uncertainties the future holds. Any uncertainty of a negative future will bring about anxiety. It is our mind and body’s attempts to prepare for the pain that is to come. With it comes the false thinking that “if I’m prepared for the punishment, the less painful it will be”; not knowing that proliferating these negative thoughts in the head increases the pain that anxiety brings.
Read more »Hello everyone, we’ve prepared a tips video for our first timers on how to make counselling sessions even more effective. Of course, this video can also benefit our long time partners in counselling. I believe there are some things we have missed?
It is now 2026! How time flies, especially for the busy and highly stimulated minds. This perception of the speeding up of time has been reported more than a decade ago. The birth of the internet was supposed to help with our quality of life but it ended up robbing us of our humanity. What was once the job of 5 people can now be manned by 1. Businesses that took decades to establish can now pop out overnight!
At a distance, people will call this efficiency, but why are we using words that were used to describe machines and engines to describe our worth or our being? Is this all that we are now? Engines, though tough and productive are the most existentially deprived things in the universe. Machines have zero choice, they have zero freedom, and the most striking of all is that it has zero consciousness. A lot of our brothers and sisters are headed to this direction.
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The image above was taken from this animated film: Kpop Demon Hunters. As a dad of a seven-year-old, I was shocked about certain themes that casually popped up, knowing that they are subliminally influencing every viewers minds (not just the kids, although it would be especially salient to the kid’s unfiltered undefended minds). What you see in the image on top is a scene in the film where the audience of the Kpop group Huntrix were literally offering their souls to the singers (you see those bright blue lines coming out from the people’s hearts? These are their souls travelling to empower the singers on stage). Among all the themes tackled in this film, I fully agreed with one where it was explained earlier in the plot that: THE BATTLE IS FOR THE MINDS OF PEOPLE.
We are in so much fear nowadays (because of the state of the world and the role of propaganda) that people will worship anything just to feel sheltered. We will simply fall for anything posing as a saviour as if looking for a quick fix to our current state of uncertainty: Investment scams, health scams, sex scams, and yes, even worshipping music bands. We are pushed to the most deflated state that we are desperate for a cure and a way out.
Read more »The family is the smallest unit of a group in God’s Kingdom. At the heart of the family is The King of kings, The Lord Jesus Christ, teaching and guiding the leaders of this unit. It all started with the marriage of the 2 offices, the offices of the husband and of the wife. Man and woman leave their families and become this singular family unit, bonding their spirits in a covenant with no one less than The Lord Jesus Himself.
This family unit, this marriage, directs and manages the movements and operations of the family. For some it is only the two of them, for the others, it consists of their offspring, for some, their family units extend to their very own parents and even to their siblings or even cousins and aunts and uncles. It is part of God’s great plan that these groups be ruled by the father and the mother, the husband and the wife, as it foreshadows the magnificent (yet incomprehensible) relationship between The Church and The Lord Jesus Himself.
Read more »While I do believe that love conquers all, maintaining marriages aren’t that simple. Even well meaning couples who truly love each other may end up drifting apart because of unprocessed and unaddressed resentments.
In this video, we discuss how miscommunications between husband and wife can lead to these build up of resentments.
Read more »The battle against lust and the corruption of sexuality has been going on since the beginning of civilization.
The first ever commandment, today known as “The Cultural Mandate” directs us to “go forth and multiply”. We were made for procreation and sexuality has always played a large role in our existence. In Creation, everything was made good. It was God who created sexuality and it was God Himself who commanded us to take part in the role of co-creators; pro-creators if you may.
Being sexual creatures, we become naturally attracted to sex. We become easily tempted and easily swayed to derive of its pleasures without consideration to its natural and divine purpose. All the enemy had to do was to stimulate these minds, and down the hill we roll. Sexual sins multiplied and society itself was pulled down.
Grace Counselling Centre provides counselling support and psychotherapeutic interventions for Pornography Addictions and related sexual addictions. We can help you manage and overcome your struggles in sex and porn addiction.
How will it go?
The first session will consist of an assessment interview to check the individual stories of the unique cases. This actually speeds up the process as the counsellor gets to identify the type of pornography or sexual addiction we’re facing and this allows us to identity targeted factors that are pertinent to the case.
Data gathered showed that most episodes of compulsively watching pornography occurs in the evening when the person is alone and bored at home. It is not so much as they are stressed but more of bored and that they want to stretch out the rest of the evening to delay the coming anxieties brought about by the next day. When are the other episodes conducted you would ask? Well, I cannot say that 100% of the episodes occur only at this ungodly hour because there are a good number of cases where afternoon episodes arise in conjunction with the evening episodes. Safe to say that in 99% cases of compulsive pornography, episodes occur in the evenings between 9pm to 2am; while some have additional episodes in the afternoon. This is obviously for the students who more or less have nothing to do in the afternoon when the parents are still away and they are left alone with their boredom (and their hormones).
Read more »In marriage counselling, I’ve encountered couples who’ve developed cumulative resentments over their partners without knowing the concrete reasons why (this usually leads to an awkward silence in couples therapy when specific examples are sought). They just suddenly feel like shutting the other party out and avoid them; only to feel the stress immediately once they’re exposed to one another again.
The first thing I look out for would be frustrations on one another; however, these frustrations can be more narrowed down to specific causes, the ones I would check on would be resentments stemming from boundary violations in a close relationship.