Abortion and Its Horrors

This article is not about the division between pro-life and pro-choice. I am not here to judge or condemn anyone or make fun of any group. Psychologically speaking, abortion destroys not only the child but also the people connected to it. That obviously includes the woman, the man, and family […] Read more »

How to Exit a Counselling Relationship

The Counselling Relationship is a working and personal relationship between you and your counsellor. It is a relationship built on respect, trust, cooperation, and motivation. These elements are necessary for growth and change to occur.  What happens then when I want to stop coming for counselling? Read more »

The Problem Within

In Solution Focused Therapy, we spend a whole load of time assessing the problem of the client. This is because every treatment plan, being unique for every case, depends wholly on the nature of the problem. As I tell counselling students, one can spend their careers dealing with suicidals but […] Read more »

When to Quit?

Quitters never win they say. It is not something we were raised to do. This virtue of determination, of not quitting, is proper when it comes to our studies, for that high school student who refuses to give up until she solves the maths problem.  For that 3 year old […] Read more »

Freedom from Perfectionism

Perfectionism doesn’t propel anyone to success, getting the job done does.  We have to see that these 2 do not go hand in hand. Perfectionism drowns the person in needless worries and delays them from getting anything done. Read more »

The Role of Guilt on Mental Health

Guilt has a survival function. It makes us feel bad for a wrong that we did. This serves to prevent further escalation of the said ‘wrong’ behaviour. Most shocking behaviours such as rape has a rooting stage wherein the unwanted behaviour was incubated and cultivated. Starting at pornography, the person […] Read more »

Beating Procrastination

Procrastination, when looked into, involves a series of “seemingly important” preparatory rituals that don’t actually do anything but delay the actual behaviour.  Before engaging in the actual task, we believe that it is important for us to be relaxed and wholly prepared for it.  This is where the problem kicks […] Read more »