The Aliens Narrative

The bombardment of Alien News: click on the image for a sample of news from BBC.

You can call me crazy for even addressing this in the Christian Counselling context, but no one can deny that alien news and propaganda have been flooding us lately. More declassified documents, more leaks, and more whistleblowing are thrown for public consumption. Why would the world be doing this?
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Singapore Rise in Suicide Rates: A Reflection

Yearly rates rose from the 300’s to 476 in a year’s time. We now have more than 1.5 suicides in a day.

I’m referring to the yearly statistical report provided by The Samaritans of Singapore (God bless these guys!) as shown in the CNA article.
Simply put: We are experiencing an increase in suicidality.
As a Christian Counsellor and Psychologist, this is how I make sense of it.
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The Imposter Syndrome in Christian Ministry

The Imposter Syndrome is a condition where a person feels like a fraud or an imposter amidst their success. The feelings of a lack of ownership over their lives brings ideas that some day the truth of their fakeness will come out and they will lose everything.

Jacob forgetting that he is “Israel”

“Everything is against me!” Genesis 42:36

The predominant emotion is that of anxiety (fear) and the recurring idea is that of doubt; in particular, the Christian believer begins pondering on the thought: “what if The Lord has withdrawn His promises?”
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Work as Unto The Lord

Colossians 3
[23] And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
[24] Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.
[25] But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.

Work and do your best in it, for it is not done just for your earthly boss but for God in Heaven.

For you serve the Lord Christ (v24).

You are placed where you currently are for a reason. It doesn’t matter whether you are a shepherd or a king like David; or a slave or a prime minister like Joseph. All of them served The Lord to the best of their abilities regardless of their position in society.
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You Can’t Go Wrong with Prayer

People get annoyed when they share their problems to friends and these friends respond by saying: “I’ll pray for you”. On the surface, it may seem that these friends cannot offer a better solution to what is bothering them. On top of that, it seems that they cannot even offer the listening ear or any other words of comfort.
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Why Counselling? What is Counselling?

Everyone wants their lives to change but do YOU want to change?
After all, counselling is all about working on ones internal changes. It is a process of unlearning the unhealthy while learning new and healthier attitudes and habits.

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. Ezekiel 36:26

Through this process, your life will change because it is you who will change. From the inside out.

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Why are we so busy with The World???

This title echoes my friend’s question: “Why must life be hard?” “Has it always been like this or did we, as a human race, stumbled ourselves away?”

I stayed in Johor Bahru for a week during Chinese New Year. Amidst the monotony of being away from work, my curiosity was roused about Gamaliel whom Paul mentioned in Acts 22:3, crediting him to be his teacher. I looked deeper into Gamaliel and was drawn to the Jewish tradition of training their children on their beliefs.
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On Our Dehumanization and Rejecting God

We are not much different from Boxer from the story: Animal Farm. “I will work harder!”

As we pause and evaluate man’s position in world history, it won’t be difficult to see that civilization is experiencing the peak of psychological distress; both as a society and as individuals. When speaking of the etiology of psychological disorders, I always come back to the theory of human needs by Erich Fromm.  We, as human beings, have basic needs to satisfy. Do check yourself out base on these needs and maybe this can give you the answer as to why you’re feeling low or why you are feeling empty.  It shows that you have been frustrated on one or more of these needs:

  1. We have a need to know who we truly are (Identity)
  2. We have a need to connect with others (Relation)
  3. We have a need to belong to a group or community (Rootedness)
  4. We have a need to rise above challenges and sufferings (Transcendence)
  5. We have a need for variation and adventure (Excitation)
  6. We have a need for constancy and consistency in our reality (Frame of Orientation)

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